Paula O’Connor Therapy

Counselling for adults and young people

About me

Welcome, thank you for stopping by.

I am a registered counsellor providing one-to-one therapy for adults, couples and young people. I have specialist training in relationship problems, porn addiction, compulsive sexual behaviour, bereavement and issues faced by teenagers.

I endeavour to create a calm, non-judgemental therapeutic space where you can feel comfortable to explore any issues that are concerning you, overcome them and make lasting changes.​

As an integrative counsellor I draw on different therapeutic modalities to tailor the therapy for each client, your circumstances and needs.

I am a member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP) and adhere to the Code of Ethics and Principles of Good Practice. 

What can I help with?

Together we will focus on whatever you might be struggling with, be that your general wellbeing, your mental health, feelings of self-esteem, self-confidence, past trauma, relationship difficulties, sexuality, compulsive sexual behaviour or porn addiction, problems at work, college, school, or within your family. Maybe you are bereaved and trying to process your loss.

As a Relate trained relationship therapist I take a systemic approach to help couples who have challenges getting along, maybe you are arguing all the time or perhaps someone has been cheating, had an affair. Maybe you have a sex addiction or porn addiction. You might need to explore some difficult issues and we can do that with you as a couple or individually.  I know these can be very difficult problems to share, it’s not easy, but it can be a relief to talk confidentially, rather than keep things bottled up.

I have specialist training in grief therapy as a Bereavement Volunteer for Cruse Bereavement Care. Grief can feel very lonely and counselling can provide emotional support if you have experienced loss through the death of a loved one.

As a school counsellor I heard young people share the pressures and hurdles they face with academic work, friendships, body image, social media, difficult feelings and emotions and I have seen how compassionate counselling can genuinely help them navigate these challenges on the path to adulthood.  

  • Anxiety

  • Bereavement, grief, loss

  • Compulsive sexual behaviour, sexting, problematic porn use

  • Depression and low mood

  • Family and relationship issues

  • Infidelity and affairs

  • Intrusive thoughts

  • Low confidence or low self-esteem

  • Menopause and womens’ issues

  • Neurodivergence (ASD, ADHD)

  • Intimacy in relationships

  • Open relationships (ENM, CNM)

  • Porn addiction

  • Relationship difficulties, conflict

  • School and friendship issues

  • Self harm

  • Sex, sexuality, gender, identity

  • Trauma

  • Work issues

Neurodiversity

I work with neurodivergent adults, young people and also couples where one partner may be neurodiverse and the other neurotypical.

I see neurodivergence as part of the natural variation of human brain functioning rather than something “ to be fixed”.

I cannot diagnose neurodivergent conditions but I can help clients understand their diversity, celebrate their positive attributes and manage their traits and tendencies in a way that works for them.

As a school counsellor I have supported students with a range of challenges and problems that may or may not be due to neurodiversity and are affecting their welfare.

What is integrative counselling

Integrative counselling draws on techniques from different types of therapy to tailor an approach specifically for you. In my case this includes, Psychodynamic, Person-centered, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Systemic and CBT modalities.

Integrative counselling  maintains the idea that there are many ways to explore and understand human psychology - no one psychotherapeutic theory alone holds the answer.

Integrative counselling aims to promote healing and facilitate wholeness. An integrative counsellor guides clients to discover all levels of their being and functioning (mental, physical and emotional).


For more information visit
what is integrative counselling, BACP

Memberships

Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (ATSAC )

Association for Family Therapy and Systemic Practice (AFT)

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT)

National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS)

Oxford Psychotherapy Society

Qualifications

Dip CSBD/SA (ISAT) Level 5 Diploma - Working with Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder and Sex Addiction

Relate Level 5 Post Qualifying Certificate in Relationship Counselling CPCAB Accredited

Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (Integrative) CPCAB Accredited

Transactional Analysis Certificate

Bereavement Counsellor (Cruse Bereavement)

Riverside - Working with Neurodiversity and Young People

Mental Health First Aid Certificate & Youth Mental Health First Aid Certificate

Qualifying MSc Certificate Psychology

BA (Hons) English

Fees, Location, Availability

Fees

Free initial 15-minute telephone consultation so you can find out if I am the right person for you.

Weekly or fortnightly sessions £60 for adults, £45 for under 18s 

One Session Therapy £75 - a one-off 50 minute session may help if you have something to get off your chest.

I offer some sessions at reduced rate for clients on low incomes.

The duration of counselling varies between clients, but I suggest an initial block of 6 weeks, followed by a review where we can discuss whether or for how long you might want to continue.

 Location - I offer sessions online via zoom and some in person sessions in Oxford  OX2  (with a waiting list).

 Availability - Daytime and evening, please email for my current availability.

Please email for appointments paulaoconnortherapy@gmail.com